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Vikto17:
[right][/right] My immediate younger Brother seems not to like me!! It is obvious from his actions and in actions a,,
This was a boy l paid his first Jamb form , bought his first phone and is planning to help sponsor him through the university,, He will never use his phone to call me, will never open up to me about anything going on in his life,, Even a birthday wish on social media he won't do it, yet he does it for others ...
I have live long enough on this earth to understand Blood is not thicker than water,, Families are those who love and care for you and not Just blood relationship..
He have the right to choose who he want to relate with, l also feel like l should be careful on how l spend money on a hater,,,
I want to withdraw every financial l have towards him and invest it on my other siblings who values their Elder brother,, just don't know how to handle my mother emotional manipulations...
Please any one in this situation how have u handled it?
Besides l have spoken to him severally about this!!

you are not serious

theophorus:

Hope say he no dey take something Sha?

U still dey ask??.... The guy na undoubtedly 420.....

because your brother does not call you on phone does not mean that he hates you.
some people don't open up easily even if you give them your millions, that does not mean they hate you.
do not allow evil thoughts to creep into your mind because of nothing.

i will advice you to call your brother to visit you on holidays or weekends , that will increase the bond between you guys and open up more avenue for you know him better.

Vikto17:
[right][/right] My immediate younger Brother seems not to like me!! It is obvious from his actions and in actions a,,
This was a boy l paid his first Jamb form , bought his first phone and is planning to help sponsor him through the university,, He will never use his phone to call me, will never open up to me about anything going on in his life,, Even a birthday wish on social media he won't do it, yet he does it for others ...
I have live long enough on this earth to understand Blood is not thicker than water,, Families are those who love and care for you and not Just blood relationship..
He have the right to choose who he want to relate with, l also feel like l should be careful on how l spend money on a hater,,,
I want to withdraw every financial l have towards him and invest it on my other siblings who values their Elder brother,, just don't know how to handle my mother emotional manipulations...
Please any one in this situation how have u handled it?
Besides l have spoken to him severally about this!!

Vikto17:
[right][/right] My immediate younger Brother seems not to like me!! It is obvious from his actions and in actions a,,
This was a boy l paid his first Jamb form , bought his first phone and is planning to help sponsor him through the university,, He will never use his phone to call me, will never open up to me about anything going on in his life,, Even a birthday wish on social media he won't do it, yet he does it for others ...
I have live long enough on this earth to understand Blood is not thicker than water,, Families are those who love and care for you and not Just blood relationship..
He have the right to choose who he want to relate with, l also feel like l should be careful on how l spend money on a hater,,,
I want to withdraw every financial l have towards him and invest it on my other siblings who values their Elder brother,, just don't know how to handle my mother emotional manipulations...
Please any one in this situation how have u handled it?
Besides l have spoken to him severally about this!!

I have similar issue with my younger sister too who my mother sees as gold even with her so many useless behavior towards my several elder brothers and uncles wives

I let my mom know my stand that I don't bad behavior and she sees it that I don't really like my sister. As at Today she likes me because she is now realizing that she has done so many bad things to many people

If your brother behavior is truly bad withdraw your assistance with wisdom because of your mother or you financially and keep mentioning that terrible behavior to him and your mother and the reason why you want a change

Like someone said "you can't force someone to love you. " Start from resetting and formatting his brain first by withdrawaling your financial on him and focus on others; Watch your steps and always be cautious while effecting that. Everybody won't love you even if you're giving them millions; they will just smile because you're giving them money and when you stops; you will see their true color.

OP. You sound like a beta male.

Which serious male cares about birthday posts on Facebook?

Sorry dear . I feel your pain

Well all these people shouting family is family blabla. Seems not to have been in same situation. My brother just do wat u have to just for d growth of the family and leave the rest for God. If I tell u my own story I swear u go fear all those younger brother but all is well

You can just rope yourself ni

Vikto17:
[right][/right] My immediate younger Brother seems not to like me!! It is obvious from his actions and in actions a,,
This was a boy l paid his first Jamb form , bought his first phone and is planning to help sponsor him through the university,, He will never use his phone to call me, will never open up to me about anything going on in his life,, Even a birthday wish on social media he won't do it, yet he does it for others ...
I have live long enough on this earth to understand Blood is not thicker than water,, Families are those who love and care for you and not Just blood relationship..
He have the right to choose who he want to relate with, l also feel like l should be careful on how l spend money on a hater,,,
I want to withdraw every financial l have towards him and invest it on my other siblings who values their Elder brother,, just don't know how to handle my mother emotional manipulations...
Please any one in this situation how have u handled it?
Besides l have spoken to him severally about this!!

Ignore everything is doing right now… when he get to a stage he will appreciate you..

Na just small poking Dey worry ham…

Whr he grow older.. he will treat you as a king

.

Vikto17:
[right][/right] My immediate younger Brother seems not to like me!! It is obvious from his actions and in actions a,,
This was a boy l paid his first Jamb form , bought his first phone and is planning to help sponsor him through the university,, He will never use his phone to call me, will never open up to me about anything going on in his life,, Even a birthday wish on social media he won't do it, yet he does it for others ...
I have live long enough on this earth to understand Blood is not thicker than water,, Families are those who love and care for you and not Just blood relationship..
He have the right to choose who he want to relate with, l also feel like l should be careful on how l spend money on a hater,,,
I want to withdraw every financial l have towards him and invest it on my other siblings who values their Elder brother,, just don't know how to handle my mother emotional manipulations...
Please any one in this situation how have u handled it?
Besides l have spoken to him severally about this!!

Fabrizio!

Vikto17:
[right][/right] My immediate younger Brother seems not to like me!! It is obvious from his actions and in actions a,,
This was a boy l paid his first Jamb form , bought his first phone and is planning to help sponsor him through the university,, He will never use his phone to call me, will never open up to me about anything going on in his life,, Even a birthday wish on social media he won't do it, yet he does it for others ...
I have live long enough on this earth to understand Blood is not thicker than water,, Families are those who love and care for you and not Just blood relationship..
He have the right to choose who he want to relate with, l also feel like l should be careful on how l spend money on a hater,,,
I want to withdraw every financial l have towards him and invest it on my other siblings who values their Elder brother,, just don't know how to handle my mother emotional manipulations...
Please any one in this situation how have u handled it?
Besides l have spoken to him severally about this!!

Is not that he hates you, some don't just like somebody that over control them or somebody that shows too seniority, little thing you shout at them, so they try to avoid you
Is like you are one of such people
The little help he's even getting from you is because he don't have, if he has he won't even you at all

There are people I don't relate with or talk to, but I love them even more than those I relate with. Be careful.

Wussys everywhere.

LesPieux:
OP. You sound like a beta male.

Which serious male cares about birthday posts on Facebook?

Vikto17:
[right][/right] My immediate younger Brother seems not to like me!! It is obvious from his actions and in actions a,,
This was a boy l paid his first Jamb form , bought his first phone and is planning to help sponsor him through the university,, He will never use his phone to call me, will never open up to me about anything going on in his life,, Even a birthday wish on social media he won't do it, yet he does it for others ...
I have live long enough on this earth to understand Blood is not thicker than water,, Families are those who love and care for you and not Just blood relationship..
He have the right to choose who he want to relate with, l also feel like l should be careful on how l spend money on a hater,,,
I want to withdraw every financial l have towards him and invest it on my other siblings who values their Elder brother,, just don't know how to handle my mother emotional manipulations...
Please any one in this situation how have u handled it?
Besides l have spoken to him severally about this!!

You are the elder, bring him closer. Make him feel vulnerable around you. You probably scold him everytime he makes mistakes, he doesn't have the courage to share what is going on in his life with you. He does not hate you, he's scared of you

2. Stop seeking validation from people like yaya toure who was angry with Mancity for not giving him a birthday cake

Vikto17:
[right][/right] My immediate younger Brother seems not to like me!! It is obvious from his actions and in actions a,,
This was a boy l paid his first Jamb form , bought his first phone and is planning to help sponsor him through the university,, He will never use his phone to call me, will never open up to me about anything going on in his life,, Even a birthday wish on social media he won't do it, yet he does it for others ...
I have live long enough on this earth to understand Blood is not thicker than water,, Families are those who love and care for you and not Just blood relationship..
He have the right to choose who he want to relate with, l also feel like l should be careful on how l spend money on a hater,,,
I want to withdraw every financial l have towards him and invest it on my other siblings who values their Elder brother,, just don't know how to handle my mother emotional manipulations...
Please any one in this situation how have u handled it?
Besides l have spoken to him severally about this!!

bro I'm facing same issue i regreted doing so much for my younger brother. He is full of envy bitterness always finding fault on me. All my friends outside has never treated me like the way this guy treated me. Truly blood is not ticker than water. Run far from him with time he will learn the hard way. I've completely removed my life or anything about me from my brother he his a devil . I now see him as an enemy and I'm watching him both physical and spiritual I can never losegard for him to kill me instead it will be the other way round. Some brothers are evil immediately they start seeing progress in your life they will change completely forgotting every man has his own destiny. I now dislike my brother now so much because he said so much I never believe he was like that until he can't hide it anymore.

If he takes hard drugs he could be seeing u as a stranger...take him for rehab first..help him and he will love u .he could be depressed too...I don't know why my pitbull dog keeps running from strangers after spending much..I bought him for protection but I am now d one protecting him

He probably sees you as an authority figure (you know how most African kids view their dads). Just be his friend. Open up to him about certain things in your life, and he'll soon become free enough to open up to you.

Bro I understand you 101% ....
My younger sister is like that. To talk anyhow no dey hard her. To keep malice no dey hard her. She has stayed 2 yrs without talking to me. She has said the most hurtful things anyone has ever told me...of course strangers can't dare say those to me, I fit stab d person even if I never try such before..... She hardly take advice from me instead she will jump into her decision, get drowned in it and then come back to tell me "had she known, she would have listened to me". She always think we are in competition instead of seeing me as an elder sister with more life experience.

She is the reason I know how much forgiving I can be as a human cz she has stretched my forgiving elasticity. And that time, I will cry... I will be thinking too much about her and what on earth I did wrong..

But you see today..... 😂😂😂😂. I no send your dark armpit ooo, whether you dey exist oo, or not... E no dey add anything to my life. If you call me sister... sister I will be to you. 1001 persons dey allign themselves with me. People wants to get my opinion over their issues, they literally wants to be the reason I smile... like all around me I see people who love and truly care about me.
I no fit die for family matter ooo. Mbanu, a di m too young for that.

But I leave my arms and heart open for them any day she realizes herself. Rather than show remorse and ask for forgiveness, e better make she cut herself with blades... Omorr people dey oo. Make I come die for another human being matter, she go carry my picture dance and face front. Oh no😁😁😁... We will enjoy this life together. She doesn't know how proud I am of her, how I wish to enjoy sisterhood like others.... Sometimes she will say same, oyanu, let's do it together... NEPA go take light.

You even have other siblings, Biko focus on them. Don't show it outrightly that you're done with him but whenever his needs comes up... You don't have for now. Period!!
If person call you human being, you call am back. Focus on positive energy. He's grown and know what's right.

Vikto17:
[right][/right] My immediate younger Brother seems not to like me!! It is obvious from his actions and in actions a,,
This was a boy l paid his first Jamb form , bought his first phone and is planning to help sponsor him through the university,, He will never use his phone to call me, will never open up to me about anything going on in his life,, Even a birthday wish on social media he won't do it, yet he does it for others ...
I have live long enough on this earth to understand Blood is not thicker than water,, Families are those who love and care for you and not Just blood relationship..
He have the right to choose who he want to relate with, l also feel like l should be careful on how l spend money on a hater,,,
I want to withdraw every financial l have towards him and invest it on my other siblings who values their Elder brother,, just don't know how to handle my mother emotional manipulations...
Please any one in this situation how have u handled it?
Besides l have spoken to him severally about this!!

These are not enough reason to conclude he doesn't love you brr
Don't be a pussy
He's probably an introvert and a loner, do your responsibility as an elder and leave God for the reward, be an elder brother for the young niqqa

I think u should try good communication and not expecting someone to automatically like or perhaps even worship u just cos u do things for them.

I'm not saying his behaviour is right but there might be more to it than the hate u have concluded. If He hates u then why? if he doesn't care about u then why? There must be a reason why a siblings acts the way they do.

Are u the controlling or judgemental type?

Also 2nd born are generally stubborn I'm guessing u are the 1st.

akube34 post=130507294:
”blood is not thicker than water ”, very important message. Bro, comot your hand for him matter. No listen to Wetin anyone go talk

Op, your brother does not hate you. Maybe he's just scared of you......and feels awkward relating freely with you.

Many introverted people are like that, and this may stem from your relationship with him when you were kids. I presume you may not have been at home that much in the past and as such there may not have been much opportunity to relate with you more freely. You may be shocked to find out years later that he actually loved you more than all the people that are doing 'eye service' to you now. I pray its not late then cos many introverts are highly misunderstood!

Try and get closer to him now to help ease his awkwardness towards you. If you want to change the situation, just try and be friends with him, and soon enough he'll come around and be at ease with you.

An introvert elder brother vs an introvert younger brother

Are these the reasons why you said he hates you?
He doesn't call you?
Doesn't wish you happy birthday?
Doesn't tell you personal stuffs?

Man you're so funny.
Relax your brother is an introvert.
My younger brother is like that too.
We can stay apart for two years and he won't call me or wish me a happy birthday.
It doesn't mean he doesn't love you.
Let something bad happen to you that's when you'll know blood is thicker than water.
All those people he's calling and wishing happy birthday doesn't mean he loves them more than you.
The relationship between you guys is not that sharp on a cordial level.
My dad barely calls me but calls others. I can't when he had wished me a happy birthday before or given me a gift. But he saw me through school, fed, clothed and provided all my needs.
So will I now say because our communication is sharp that he doesn't love me?
Chill bro. Don't sound immature.

You don't give value to someone who doesn't ask or value what you are giving to him or her. I'm sure he never ask you for anything, you are the one dishing out value to him. You did something valuable to someone, he never calls you to show appreciation, yet you keep dishing out more and more, he will take you for granted and that is what is happening now. So withdraw every financial assistance and stop calling him if he doesn't call you. You don't value whoever does not have any value for you

jaxxy:
I think u should try good communication and not expecting someone to automatically like or perhaps even worship u just cos u do things for them.

I'm not saying his behaviour is right but there might be more to it than the hate u have concluded. If He hates u then why? if he doesn't care about u then why? There must be a reason why a siblings acts the way they do.

Are u the controlling or judgemental type?

Also 2nd born are generally stubborn I'm guessing u are the 1st.

Some people don't need any single reason to dislike or hate you. Naturally as siblings, love, understanding and respect should never be found wanting amongst us.

This guy go complain tire ...... Him too complain sef..... Person like me no send you ohh....Even papa wey born me, train me for school I never call na brother?? Mtcheéw....No go look stone boil,your younger brother is too occupied get use to it and move on.

lekonso:
You don't give value to someone who doesn't ask or value what you are giving to him or her. I'm sure he never ask you for anything, you are the one dishing out value to him. You did something valuable to someone, he never calls you to show appreciation, yet you keep dishing out more and more, he will take you for granted and that is what is happening now. So withdraw every financial assistance and stop calling him if he doesn't call you. You don't value whoever does not have any value for you

Period!!! Whenever he realizes himself, they start from where they stopped. Shebi na blood

I don't understand you. You are expected to assist your brothers without expecting anything in return. You are building up your entire family not only him. He has not gotten to the stage you put him. Train him because of your children, life is diezy!

My relationship with family is purely transaction. You call me , I call you back, you check up on me and show care, I help you financially and show you care, you visit, I visit, I must find a way to gain from you for everything you get from me.

Your emergency or need is not my emergency. Everyone knows me for that. I never get angry, I just cut you off.

With me, you have only one chance to fvuck up and I will NEVER give you a second chance. You will determine if we will have a family relationship.