NewStats: 3,265,402 , 8,186,609 topics. Date: Saturday, 14 June 2025 at 06:53 PM 6r6h

Men, you should walk away after a slap.
1 Corinthians 7:28

Yet those [who marry] will have troubles (special challenges) in this life, and I am trying to spare you that.

There will always be conflict, I hope we learn how to navigate them better honestly.

Atasko:
If you can hit her back then, we have similar principle then . I don't know why she feel it's wrong to hit back.

generally it is wrong to hit back. Retaliation is a great offense by nature even in football. Person wey retaliate dey receive red ♦️. You get?

Atasko:
Hi. I had this chat with my girlfriend today and I'm here wondering if I have been having a messed up principle. I personally don't believe in violence. I will rather involve the authority than get physical. While growing up, I have always believed that hitting a woman irrespective of her actions is totally wrong until I was slapped in SS1 by a hot tempered girl. I didn't hit her back but I randomly think about it ever since . After that, I decided to always return every assault irrespective of the gender. But now I'm questioning that principle after this convoy. Am I wrong? What will you do in a similar situation?

Like you, I also believe in gender equality

So long as she thinks it's okay to hit me, even if as a result of anger, I don't see anything wrong in hitting her back.
Respect is reciprocal. It's disrespectful for a woman to have the audacity to hit a man and the man reserve the right to not only hit her back can even sue her.
Women use that line a lot, so you will hit a woman?
Why not?
Especially a woman that hit a man, she deserves anything she got cos it's definitely wrong

JAOS:
I can only hit a woman back in public space because if anything happens to her in my house I will be held responsible even if she started the fight the law will favor the woman best I can do is to push her out of my house and if she is a risk to me I will report her to the authorities thats all😁

pushing her out and she falls and hit her head on something

JAOS:
I can only hit a woman back in public space because if anything happens to her in my house I will be held responsible even if she started the fight the law will favor the woman best I can do is to push her out of my house and if she is a risk to me I will report her to the authorities thats all😁

There's a very popular gadget called a handset. It's portable and can be used discreetly to record whatever transpired between you two for evidence.

Atasko:
That's my thought process as well. She sees nothing wrong with a woman hitting a man but frowns at the retaliation. I see it as double standard. She's literally keeping malice with me over this our conversation lol

Always tell her the truth regardless of how she'll feel. If she's meant for you, she'll stay. Don't compromise. Let her know what you like or don't like now. This is a very good start bro. Keep going. If she wants to leave, let her go. Set your standard and boundaries now. Don't look at her face or how she's good on bed. Look at her character. That's what will sustain the relationship if ever you guys get married at the end of the day.

Na you find trouble, go and correct the mistake.

Wetin concern me with gender 🙄. Since your sense no tell you it's wrong to hit a man so I'm too. You go feel the heat 🔥 and I believe respect will come in after , Rubbish !

Juliearth:







Exactly! She baited him and he fell for it. Only an emotionally intelligent person can throw such baits. Asking that question doesn't mean she would play out the response she gave. She painted that picture to get your reaction.


Research more about emotional intelligence and you would understand that it goes hand-in-hand with emotional manipulation and that was the blow the op suffered.




Point of correction. Yes, she was trying to manipulate him not to being abused, but to know if he can return the gesture if it happens (not like she intends to tow that path)

From your response it shows you are not exposed to women,she will try it one day ,making from play or during sex.


If a woman playfully hit me during play,I return it ×1.5 and I will call it a reflex.
Next time is doesn't need noatradamus to tell her that her teeth will need fixing if she dare hit me.


They will text your resolve

Never, I repeat never ever in your life hit a woman as a man. Never!!!

But if a woman you are dating hits you, that's the end of the relationship. Why? Because if you don't send her packing, you will one day hit or even unalive her and if you don't hit her, you will feel emasculated and she may see you as weak and increase her physical abuse towards you the more.

But if you married a woman who hits you, first off you are a fuulish man because you didn't study her well before saying "I do". After itting your fuulishness, you must divorce her and send her back to her father's hut. If you don't and think it will get better, I pity you. Once a woman has the mind to hit a man, it only gets worse. Trust me

Shalom

Atasko:
Hi. I had this chat with my girlfriend today and I'm here wondering if I have been having a messed up principle. I personally don't believe in violence. I will rather involve the authority than get physical. While growing up, I have always believed that hitting a woman irrespective of her actions is totally wrong until I was slapped in SS1 by a hot tempered girl. I didn't hit her back but I randomly think about it ever since . After that, I decided to always return every assault irrespective of the gender. But now I'm questioning that principle after this convoy. Am I wrong? What will you do in a similar situation?

I believe in gender equality but the truth is there is no gender equality.
Go back to her and pet her.
You can defend yourself without hitting back at a lady.
You should never hit your wife or girlfriend they're just like a child to you also.
Have you seen movie where a lady keeps hitting a man who is huge and he just push her aside.
Women know men will not want to harm them that is why some express anger or frustration in a wrong way by hitting their husband.
Go back and talk to her like a gentle man.
You deal with a woman without physical combat.
Don't let anyone tell you otherwise, I can't hit woman or hit someone on behalf of a woman.
Avoid trouble at all cost

One of my ex told me that she likes to fight with her man sometimes.
Why? I asked, she said because the make up sex is always mind blowing....


I was like, are you for real?


What kind of stupid reasoning is that? What if he hits you and you die, you're gonna have make up sex in hell?


Sha that's why she's my ex.




I tell all my chicks, I don't hit nobody cause if I do, even you would agree that you deserve it.

The appropriate answer to her question was "don't ever think about it". Period.

The girl is daft and violent. Not fit to raise your kids.

Leave her.

Juliearth:








Your ŵoman baited you and you fell for it. Or maybe not exactly falling, but you pet out your disposition to the situation.


Let's just say her level of emotional intelligence sures yours.

bait ? Not everybody has time for childish games. If she has bait let her go to the river and fish 😂

Atasko:
Hi. I had this chat with my girlfriend today and I'm here wondering if I have been having a messed up principle. I personally don't believe in violence. I will rather involve the authority than get physical. While growing up, I have always believed that hitting a woman irrespective of her actions is totally wrong until I was slapped in SS1 by a hot tempered girl. I didn't hit her back but I randomly think about it ever since . After that, I decided to always return every assault irrespective of the gender. But now I'm questioning that principle after this convoy. Am I wrong? What will you do in a similar situation?

In Diplomacy, we deflect questions. You answered well, but not well enough!; I'll score you 5/10! That's what an average guy on the street would do; I want to believe you're not an average guy; you're above average!

When she asked what you'd do if a woman slaps you, you should have shut down the conversation at that point! There are different ways to shut it down. Don't dignify her with an answer (but wetin you go do dey your mind).

For example, you could deflect by asking her who she values most in church or music. Ask her if she can ask them such a question. Or ask if she can slap them for any reasons. ANY REASON at all!!!

You could even feign annoyance, telling her to stop asking such childish questions. Tell her it's an insult for her to ask if you'd hit a woman. Why should you even ask if I'd hit a woman. How do you expect me to start constructing an answer to this insult babe? Haba naa... You're diminishing my brain cells by asking me these questions. We should be talking about how we'd build billion dollar empires, and you're here asking me shii... Please lets grow up.

Mind you, in the second scenario, you did not answer the question... But wetin you go do dey your mind.


Deflect the question next time such things are asked you! Na you be boss ooo... Any body wey wan know if you go slap them should come and slap, and you'll tell them the answer.

My little 2 year old slapped me, I slapped him back (tiny slap sha, but he was shocked)! Told him that's how life is. If your mate slaps you, slap him back, and don't come crying to me. Let their parents come complain, and I'll apologize on you and our family's behalf- I'll even pay compensation if need be. But I don't want to be complaining to others.


If my woman slap me (my wife would never even try it), I'll make sure she receives something worse. Not necessarily physical, but something she'll never forget in her life. I might separate from her because of that (even if I was the one at the wrong)! Yes... My offence (even if I got another woman pregnant) is dwarfed by your slap. Don't ever try it

OP the replies your girlfriend is giving you is somehow.

You explicitly said you don't believe in violence whether it be against a man or woman and will only resort to physical confrontation if attacked first which is very fair but see how she's trying to gaslight you into thinking you're a woman beater lol.

She didn't first say under any circumstance will she not hit you physically but she's now trying to shift blame to you for saying you will return aura for aura.

I think modern society needs to go the extra mile in teaching both men and women that physical violence unless in self defense is a no no. If a man cheats or does something you don't like you can't slap him or throw stuff at him to cause physical injury. Unfortunately pop culture through movies and music videos have perpetuated this trope so much that it has become normalized. Flip the tables if a woman cheats on her partner won't we say he's an abusive beast if he starts beating her up. Like you rightly responded to her gender equality and equity is the way in your relationship.

I don't know if you're a Christian but our faith teaches us self control God help all of us because even me I'm not perfect in that regard.

Wish you all the best in your relationship.

Atasko:
Hi. I had this chat with my girlfriend today and I'm here wondering if I have been having a messed up principle. I personally don't believe in violence. I will rather involve the authority than get physical. While growing up, I have always believed that hitting a woman irrespective of her actions is totally wrong until I was slapped in SS1 by a hot tempered girl. I didn't hit her back but I randomly think about it ever since . After that, I decided to always return every assault irrespective of the gender. But now I'm questioning that principle after this convoy. Am I wrong? What will you do in a similar situation?

Atasko:
If you can hit her back then, we have similar principle then . I don't know why she feel it's wrong to hit back.

You're letting her to gaslight you into feeling guilty and it seems she's succeeding.

You have every right to fight back in the same energy.

She said "it's not okay for a woman to hit a man " but feels more concerned about you hitting back.

This should tell you one thing that you will likely have this issues in the future if you proceed to marrying her.

She just want a guy that's gullible and easily manipulated.

If you've got balls.... don't change them for boobs.

Atasko:
That's my thought process as well. She sees nothing wrong with a woman hitting a man but frowns at the retaliation. I see it as double standard. She's literally keeping malice with me over this our conversation lol

you have done/said nothing wrong. Don't apologize for your stand, which is 💯 correct.

Just so you know, my wife also asked me this silly question while we were dating...I'm talking like 2015...my response was the same. I have never raised my hand to a woman, and I have also never had a woman put her hands on me that way. I simply told her clearly that no matter how angry she ever gets, she had better perish the thought of ever doing that and all will be well.

Men, set boundaries and enforce boundaries. Don't give in to any silly reconditioning or manipulation. Entrench a strict no physical violence policy. If she wan vex waka, let her hit the door on her way out.

The earlier you define the boundaries without compromise the better for you. Don't be manipulated into the bullshit of not defending yourself.

Here is the rule:

A gentleman should always walk away when things starts getting hitted.

A gentlewoman should be careful with her words even in the face of anger for they can cause more damage than physical harm.

A woman who raises her hands against a man is strong enough for the retaliation but retaliation should be slightly proportional.

We can't be teaching men to be gentlemen and not teach women to be gentle women.


I while I was dating my wife (I'm a very calm guy while she's aggressive), that very day we had tiniest of misunderstandings and she flinged her hands towards me which hit my face.

Out of reflex, I returned the compliment with a slap. I saw the shock on her face and then she came up with "you hit me" manipulation..... "so you are a woman beater" I told her point blank that I won't spear any physical assault towards me and I would never be the first to hit her ever.

It's been many years now with so many misunderstandings settled without lifting a finger. If I hadn't shown her the boundaries then it would have developed.

Learn to defend yourself.

Atasko:
Hi. I had this chat with my girlfriend today and I'm here wondering if I have been having a messed up principle. I personally don't believe in violence. I will rather involve the authority than get physical. While growing up, I have always believed that hitting a woman irrespective of her actions is totally wrong until I was slapped in SS1 by a hot tempered girl. I didn't hit her back but I randomly think about it ever since . After that, I decided to always return every assault irrespective of the gender. But now I'm questioning that principle after this convoy. Am I wrong? What will you do in a similar situation?

Women with blackmail sha! You hit me your own don done. I m going to hit you back and send you out of my hone. The mutual respect is gone☹️

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If you guys make up after this and she tests her hypothesis, don't forget to slap the saliva out of her mouth. Everybody should keep their hands to themselves. [/books.

My nigga😊😊

Miriam T calm down babe, she wan threaten breakup instead of working on her manners and stop being physically abusive to men.

Omo
Touch me by mistake and you will be corrected by Bianca ojukwu kinda loud slap....u know dey madt ni

Person dey manipulate you you think it's love, she's just mentioning hitting you casually like it's nothing but flares up when you mentioned hitting back, so because you be man it's okay to be a punching bag, violence is a two way street, women can practice domestic violence on men too, Na same them go scream equality, she knew you're a man before she hit you right, if that didn't deter her, her respect for you should have deter her, so in the absence of both, everything goes, just make sure it's justified because most people don't back down, infact ignoring such problematic people increase Thier lust for pushing you further.

Bro. You have a principle. For every action there's a reaction. Don't hit me and I won't hit you. If a woman hits you and you retaliated based on reflex, that doesn't make you a woman beater nor should you let anyone emotionally blackmail you into thinking it is.

Atasko:
That's my thought process as well. She sees nothing wrong with a woman hitting a man but frowns at the retaliation. I see it as double standard. She's literally keeping malice with me over this our conversation lol

My brother.... She is a feminist. I will suggest you ghost her too...... There is nothing justifiable in her argument.....

Atasko:
Hi. I had this chat with my girlfriend today and I'm here wondering if I have been having a messed up principle. I personally don't believe in violence. I will rather involve the authority than get physical. While growing up, I have always believed that hitting a woman irrespective of her actions is totally wrong until I was slapped in SS1 by a hot tempered girl. I didn't hit her back but I randomly think about it ever since . After that, I decided to always return every assault irrespective of the gender. But now I'm questioning that principle after this convoy. Am I wrong? What will you do in a similar situation?

Juliearth:


Exactly! She baited him and he fell for it. Only an emotionally intelligent person can throw such baits. Asking that question doesn't mean she would play out the response she gave. She painted that picture to get your reaction.


Research more about emotional intelligence and you would understand that it goes hand-in-hand with emotional manipulation and that was the blow the op suffered.




Point of correction. Yes, she was trying to manipulate him not to being abused, but to know if he can return the gesture if it happens (not like she intends to tow that path)

Women should be more emotionally intelligent but I will this test easily logically.
There are many ways to deal with a woman but physical combat is out of option

Double0h7:
I think you should stand on your principle. She's trying to manipulate you into accepting violence from a woman under the guise that she is weaker and her hits won't hurt.

An ab, male or female, start their violence small. It will be a slap here and there, pulling and tearing your clothes, and then one day it be an object to the back of the head, or a knife in your chest. Stop violence from the dot!

There is Spirit that speaks to you. It is not only flesh and blood.

You did a poor Job hiding MiriamT.

Whatever is worth doing, is worth doing well.

Bonjovi13:
You have probably lost her going by her reaction.
Never ever it that you can hit a woman for whatever reason even if she hits you first.

Your position should be that upon provocation you would diffuse the situation or walk away. That shows that you have self control which is a trait any woman would prefer because they know that they can get out of line one day and they would need you to be the bigger man to diffuse the situation or walk away.

The way you said you would retaliate against a woman who hit you, made you seem like someone who would not hesitate to assault a woman physically if she ever gets out of line by hitting you. She will never feel safe with you. Hence her withdrawal.

I suggest you apologise and change your
position. Assure her that you now understand how your words may have come across.

Tell her that you will make sure that you will never make her mad to the extent that she will hit you and that God forbid if that happens, you will with love and maturity diffuse the situation or walk away.

apology my foot! If she can go out of her way, i can too! after all we're both human! i hate what i don't like

She want to dominate you . Emotional exploitation.....Don't be Weak...
Women don't Question Strong men.

Imagine Regina Daniels Emotionally blackmailing Ned .
She perceived you as weak and want be sure hence the Questions ..