NewStats: 3,265,471 , 8,186,834 topics. Date: Sunday, 15 June 2025 at 06:51 AM 2h6s4b

Well deserving award recipients. God bless the Federal Republic of Nigeria.

Femi Falana truly deserves this. Wishing him all the best.
Tinubu remains a very smart politician.
2027 is already looking promising for him. He’ll likely pump money into circulation, for the masses and civil servants, as the elections draw near.

franchasofficia:
I love beautiful hot women a lot, especially those with hot shape and killer smile

My bro, choose a woman based on her deep character, not just vibes or beauty. Also, never be with a woman who sees submission as oppression, no matter how beautiful she is.

Biggest ick others give me:
When someone starts chasing a person, man or woman, and suddenly all their flaws vanish in their eyes. Like basic discernment just goes out the window.

The current president too is keeping it for Nigeria.

Gaslighting 101.

You really think the world’s richest man would just wake up and start insulting the U.S. president,... the same man he spent millions helping to elect, ...without a strategy?
That wasn’t a blunder.
Elon knows what he’s doing.
Trump knows what he’s doing.
They’re playing chess.

immortalcrown:
You have finally accepted the truth you tried to oppose.

Not quite. I didn't oppose the truth.

Two things fit dey true at once:
Some men mess up marriage...
And some marriages mess up men.

immortalcrown:
I mentioned marriage seminar here because you mentioned driving school. The seminar is to marriage what driving school is to ...... of abs and perverts is growing. People..........should have done is to question why people approach marriage wrongly, or question what people could have been doing wrongly in marriage these days.

Your points are valid, and I agree, perverts and abs deserve whatever karma serves them.

But let’s not pretend every man suffering in marriage is a cheat or unwise. Some entered with pure intentions and strong values, yet still got crushed by emotional manipulation, sex starvation, and constant power struggles.

Marriage isn’t for every man, and that’s okay. It’s a tool, a structure, a kind of technology meant to serve a purpose. If you choose to adopt it, do it wisely.

My tip for men:

- Vet for deep character, not just vibes or beauty.
- Don’t marry a woman who sees submission as oppression.
- Guard your mental health. Your life literally depends on it.
- And never enter marriage because of pressure. Enter with purpose, or don’t enter at all.

Advice for men trying to settle down
- Vet for deep character, not just vibes or beauty.
- Don’t marry a woman who sees submission as oppression.
- Guard your mental health. Your life literally depends on it.
- And never enter marriage because of pressure. Enter with purpose, or don’t enter at all.

immortalcrown:
I already addressed everything you said here.

As you go to driving schools and following building plans, attend marriage seminars and stick to the purpose of marriage.

No wahala. But marriage prep for men needs to reflect today's realities, not just recycled advice from another era.

Too many men attend seminars, stick to the script, and still get blindsided. Why? Because the manual no match the terrain.

We’re not knocking marriage, we’re saying: update the tools, update the talk.

immortalcrown:
The rate of road accident is increasing. Nobody has asked if cars have benefits for men.

The rate of building collapse is increasing. Yet, ..........
So, why is the reaction different for marriage? Aren't people hyping ........... poster is indirectly trying to discredit marriage.

It's true, cars dey kill, houses dey collapse. But we do service/repair our cars, go to driving school, and follow building plans. Why? Because even good things need structure and ability.

Now let's look at marriage:
Nigeria’s divorce rate has increased significantly over the last decade. There are scientific researches linking relationship stress to rising male suicide and depression.

So it's not about discrediting marriage o, but to ask: how can we build it better? Even a mansion go fall if the foundation bend.

immortalcrown:
You have itted that people use attitude to condition marriage. You have itted that marriage does not condition itself. So, why do you sound as if ..........

When something keeps going wrong for many, wisdom demands we step back, not just to question who’s in it, but what we’ve turned it (marriage) into.

Marriage no do anybody bad on its own, but the way we dey structure am, hype am, and pressure people into it—na that one dey quietly wound plenty souls.

immortalcrown:
Marriage does not decide how it should be felt by people. People decide how they feel marriage.

Why are you pushing the blame on marriage instead of .......?

True, marriage doesn’t decide how it’s felt, people do. But let’s be honest, not everyone enters with the same tools, mindset, or .

And while some build legacies in marriage, others quietly drown in it. We’ve seen good men break down, some even take their lives, all while “doing this right thing/marriage.

immortalcrown:
What exactly do you mean by, "current structure of marriage"? Marriage............
......... As there is a rise in divorce, there is also a rise in road accident. Nobody has questioned whether cars offer any benefit to men. But you are asking whether marriage offers any benefit to man.

I feel you, boss. Marriage as an institution might not have changed—but the world around it don change tire. Expectations, pressure, shifting roles, cost of living and so on.

When I say “current structure,” I mean the way marriage feels for plenty men today.

Nobody dey attack marriage o. But let’s be real—if cars started catching fire more often, people would question them too. 😅 Na the same thing we dey do here.

algomachine:


You answered the kid maturely, well done.

I’m married and I must confess that marriage has its pros and cons.

Pros:
Extra meaning to life: You’re a provider and you have a legacy to protect, your kids are an extension of you, so you just sense that in years to come, they would replace you.

Secondly, marriage opens ...............

The truth is, marriage stretches you, but it also builds you if you let it.

And I love how you balanced it: the meaning, the growth, the respect… but also the bills, the stress, the constant explaining 😂. Real talk.

Dexy4yah:
If you marry a good woman, you will know that marriage is sweet.
My dad married a good woman which is my mom….i pray to be lucky like my dad.

A good partner truly makes all the difference. 🙏

webincomeplus:
Who is this one creating threads and replying with AI? Is this what AI will turn NL to? So, some people have suddenly lost their abilities to engage in mental and logical real-world discussions without resorting to AI? It's pathetic!

Lol, I get where you're coming from—but whether it’s AI, pen and paper, or voice notes, it’s still humans asking the questions and starting the conversations.

If tech helps us go deeper or express it better, why not use it? Na the same brain still dey behind it. 😎

Peakdesign23:
Any man that cannot provide for his family is worse than an infidel. If you can keep to yourself, Don't marry! It's not by force. Stay single for the rest of your life and stop complaining about wetin man gain or wetin man no gain. Just live your life nigga.

Marriage no be by force!

I feel you, sis. Marriage isn’t child’s play, and every man should understand the weight of it before entering.

That’s why we’re having these conversations; not to run from marriage, but to help people enter it with clear eyes and the right mindset.

Negroid001:
If you marry a woman that loves you more than you love her, you'll enjoy marriage.

If not. Sorry ooo.

😂 You just unlocked Level 1 of Marriage Survival Guide!
But real question—what happens when the love starts to shift? E go still sweet or na cruise go end?

tunnyl:
In my opinion marriage is a test of leadership from God for men. Its a man’s duty to lead his family. If he is successful at it then that is his gain.

That’s a powerful perspective—and I agree that leadership is a core part of a man's role in marriage, especially in faith-based homes. But here's a question: if leadership is the test, are men being equipped and ed enough to it, or are they just thrown in and expected to figure it out alone?

Because without proper , even leadership becomes a burden, not a blessing.

immortalcrown:
Has your father said that he didn't benefit anything from the marriage that brought you into this world?

If not, the post is childish.

That's a fair point, and I respect your take. But this post isn't about my father or any one person's experience—it's about questioning whether the current structure of marriage still serves men in a healthy and balanced way.

Many men today feel trapped between cultural expectations and personal reality. The goal here isn’t to dismiss marriage, but to open a real conversation about how it can evolve to serve both partners better.

Let’s hear more perspectives—has marriage been a blessing or burden for the men you know?

Dear Men and Women:
Is it time we redefined what marriage means in our culture?
Should a man marry for love, legacy, pressure—or not at all?

Drop your hot takes in the comments. Let’s talk. 👇🏽

Let’s Talk About the Real Deal Behind Marriage for Men



Marriage. That age-old institution. The white agbada, the jollof rice, the bride price negotiations, and of course—“So when are you getting married?” echoing from every family gathering.

But let’s ask the uncomfortable question out loud: What exactly does a man gain from marriage today?

Some say peace of mind. Others say companionship. But in reality, many men feel they're just ticking boxes—carrying financial burdens, losing personal freedom, and navigating emotional landmines… all while society expects them to “man up” and provide no matter what.

Let’s break it down:

Financial Pressure: From the lavish wedding to endless responsibilities—school fees, rent, emergencies—many men feel marriage is more of a debit alert than a life upgrade.

Emotional Isolation: Ironically, while marriage is supposed to be a partnership, many men confess they feel lonelier than ever, expected to be strong but never allowed to be vulnerable.

Freedom vs Responsibility: The bachelor life offers control over one’s time, friends, and money. Marriage, on the other hand, comes with a routine that often feels like a sacrifice of identity.

So here’s the real gist: Is marriage truly designed to benefit the man, or has it become a societal obligation that mostly serves others?

Like, was this necessary. If you want to become a gospel artist, let us know.

Women have a very dark side, when it comes to who they are attracted to, that most men are not aware of.

Using AI is not "easy". It's not easy, it's just another layer of skills to develop.

Modern Programming languages e.g python, JS etc with translators and compilers were easy for those who were used to assembly language of early computers.

AI use is a skill to learn and be proficient with it, to stand out.

In next 10-15 years, something new will come out again.

Just make sure you are always in the latest skill loop

If the people that matter in the society want to reason your matter, you cannot escape it.

The confession alone is enough, they can easily get a 15 year old victim, hide the identity (victim protection), run a trial, convict and jail the dumb Akpi or whatever they call him for 20 years... Northing go happen.. all the people he's trying to impress online will mock him, and move on.

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Natural Head of the Yoruba Race - NHYR

When Tinubu will need the help of Nigerians that he's treating like beggars, he may not find it.



Vox populi, vox dei (The voice of the people is the voice of God)...... This will be 2027 motto...

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How does this help the common man