NewStats: 3,265,539 , 8,187,143 topics. Date: Sunday, 15 June 2025 at 04:37 PM 373s3t

Curious345:


Check your spermcount and sperm parameters ?

Take her to a pelvic \uss scan .. hormonal assay too.

Why a whole 7yrs

As I grew older. I understood what my mother meant by, the only evidence of fertility in a woman is pregnancy (you can run all the tests, or visit all the spiritualists), and their is a reason why some group of men prefer women who have had like 1 child.

The level of childless marriages have quadrupled so far. Only single mothers have proof of fertility. I stopped insulting single mums long time ago when I figured this out. Many of us a married to drums .. empty drums.

Futuristica:
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .

Just a background.

I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.

But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.

My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.

She has def cheated. That statement alone shows she thinks she will find confort in another mans arm

shortgun:

He was threatening her with divorce instead of looking for workable solutions to fix the marriage from onset. Women feel devastated, demoralized and frustrated in any environment where they are shown rejection....she will never give her best or even try!
A man in every home must know how to work on the psychology of his wife

Did you bother to ask how many times this have been going on and how frustrated he must have been despite so many talks before he start threatening her with divorce?

You'll hardly see a man threatening a woman with divorce, instead he'll ignore and flirt outside.

No kids for 7yrs? Sit her down and discuss. You are a man. Prepare yourself to embrace any unfavorable outcome.

Futuristica:


She doesn't cook or cannot and not willing to learn as she was burning food daily.some lies here and there,invested huge monies repeatedly and lost them in ponzy schemes against my advice,she never apologises,talks to me anyhow etc

How did u get married to her in the first place?
Didnt u guys date?

All these would have been settled in courtship na
Anyways threaten her with a wife number 2 if u have the resources

shortgun:

He was threatening her with divorce instead of looking for workable solutions to fix the marriage from onset. Women feel devastated, demoralized and frustrated in any environment where they are shown rejection....she will never give her best or even try!
A man in every home must know how to work on the psychology of his wife

Oga seven years without a child, and now she is diabetic. She got nothing to give, except her father is Dangote

Futuristica:
even lost our pregnancy due to too much sugar intake against my advice..now she is fully diabetic

Educate yourself sir, injesting sugary things is not the cause of Diabetes, Aproko Doctor has said this numerous times, other doctors have said this several times. Obesity, genetics, diesease that cause the immune system to start attcaking itself can also attack the insulin in the body thereby causing diabetes, also other factors contribute to diabetes not intake of sugar.

Your wife lost her womb due to a miscarriage, yet you aren't even being empathetic towards her. Loosing a womb for a woman who doesn't have a child yet is like the end of the world for her, depression sets in, mood swings sets in, "i don't care attitude " sets in. It is the job of a partner to show , patience and long suffering in such situations. Rather you are threatening her with divorce up and down.

The so called whatsapp message you sent up there doesn't amount to any conclusion yet you are looking for any means to accuse her of cheating. Only someone who is guilty of cheating on their partner would be loling for any little signs to associate their partner with cheating.

Futuristica:
..lol..I strong bro..na clarification na em I need to act o

You don't need any clarification, count your loss, seems you have invested so much in the relationship, you better move on or you learn in the HARD way.

Give her a divorce asap. In ur best interest

You know what to do bro don't sweep it under the carpet....

Zonefree:

Nawao.

God is your strength.

I burst into laughter with this ‘Nawa o’ 🤣🤣😂

Futuristica:


She doesn't cook or cannot and not willing to learn as she was burning food daily.some lies here and there,invested huge monies repeatedly and lost them in ponzy schemes against my advice,she never apologises,talks to me anyhow etc

Una dey really marry o. Shuoo!!
All this from a wife?

Futuristica:

She doesn't have a child for me yet after over 7years and I can say that I started the divorce thing first as I was fond of threatening her that if she doesn't do right,we may have to have a divorce

You two need to be calming down.

Futuristica:


She doesn't cook or cannot and not willing to learn as she was burning food daily.some lies here and there,invested huge monies repeatedly and lost them in ponzy schemes against my advice,she never apologises,talks to me anyhow etc

How did you guys meet or What attracted you to her... Can we visit the very first beginning... I mean the Genesis...

My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .


She don waka tete😎 na only you dey that house... If you don't divorce her you may loose your life. Just give her the divorce.. then enjoy your life. I didn't plan for it but it's very sweet. If you're broke only you know, and if you're on, only you know too. She is for the streets 😊 Send her off!

Tht woman is tired of u........take the next underground railroad and head to Canada and free ur self front this sycological turture.........


When a woman begins to threaten u with break up, divorce,moving out, creating sometime for herself .........
Baba that mins she no longer see u as a threat to her emotional upkeep......


Women are selfish in nature they use u for succor and cover even in marriage and relationship once the shade is thorn they either want to discard u or want out....

Thts y in all u do in life ...take note


....Women tht argue a lot are most time the worst rubbish to marry......don't try it
1. Never allow her all power
2. Never allow her grow professionally them u .if u must ...then add up to urself
3. Never sponsor her......
Don't allow her have her way
4. Don't always take all advice from her
5. Don't allow her dictate ur time to come home and the friends u keep..
6. When she yell at u shout at her and ignore her .
7. Don't always grant all her wish
8. Don't allow her invest singularly in a business...u do it and control her ....
9. When providing for upkeep let ur children know ...she can turn them against u
10. Cooperate abi professional woman are cooperate trash cut them to size...
Bleep her well oooo e get why ...when doing tht slap her...
Give her money in sizes if is ur wife ....
Provide for ur children very well.

Futuristica:


She doesn't cook or cannot and not willing to learn as she was burning food daily.some lies here and there,invested huge monies repeatedly and lost them in ponzy schemes against my advice,she never apologises,talks to me anyhow etc

Do you still need anybody to tell you that she doesn't love you? A woman that ask you to divorce her. Bro I pity you.you better run for your life.

Never place yourself at the mercy of a woman.

She's already one foot out the door

No be ur wife again my guy

Futuristica:
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .

Just a background.

I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.

But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.

My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.

Is your financial situation relatively ok, do you have average gbola, if yes let her be, in fact from now don't complain on any wrong thing she does, give her money for necessary things for the house, take good care of yourself, I mean look good and happy, buy cloths for yourself and take yourself out. When she is tired she will come back. Some people will say what if she has actually cheated? But I say since you haven't caught her, she hasn't cheat. As a man, learn how to keep your woman loyal to you. Just as you don't use a particular gear to drive your vehicle to your destination, same way you don't maintain a particular attitude in marriage, you keep switching gear(attitude) to stabilise your marriage journey through life. As a man the responsibility lies mainly on you to keep the marriage stable.

fitinwell:


How did you guys meet or What attracted you to her... Can we visit the very first beginning... I mean the Genesis...

That is not necessary! The are already married.

Thunderfayamods:

That is not necessary! The are already married.

But the question isn't meant for you...

If you have your own story too share?

Give her the divorce......let her go and fulfil her craves.......unless she is the one survive you. When respect and love is gone there is nothing you can do about it....time will tell.

She no get womb and she dey cheat on u without remorse yet u dey behave like zombie. Wetin u get to loss if u let her go?

If she raises the stakes by saying if you wish you should give her a divorce, in that case you must go ahead and give her the divorce if not, you back down, just know you are bleeped.
Truth of the matter of which most will refuse to believe, a high percentage of spouses are into one runs or the other, if you search you will find.
As it is said, na who them catch be thief.

fitinwell:


But the question isn't meant for you...

If you have your own story too share?

Is this not a public forum?

shortgun:

There's nothing much to the message, the friend might as well be referring to herself and not your wife.
With some of the things you've listed about your wife, i see a frustrated woman. It's time for you to look in your direction, the problem might just be with you

Htf is it him
Please explain

Futuristica:


She doesn't have a child for me yet after over 7years and I can say that I started the divorce thing first as I was fond of threatening her that if she doesn't do right,we may have to have a divorce

Defensive that’s all you did here on her behalf.

That we will miss you to me means she’s already planning life with a new guy in another city if not country.

Her close colleague knows this .

Futuristica:


Point is,I don't even want to catch her.But I suspect she had a thing that has ended.whats ur view about the message her work colleague sent her?

she is talking to tht her friend about u in her work place .....baba tht woman has a secret about u ..tht ur ashamed to tell this forum hence the reason her acting up .....7 yrs no children and she hv the guts to gaslight and threaten u.......u better go check urself medically....

. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .



She has already divorced you better you let her go before she will kill you because for her to tell you to divorce her she has already cheated on you and will continue

Futuristica:
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .

Just a background.

I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.

But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.

My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.

This life na once... Flee

Futuristica:


She doesn't have a child for me yet after over 7years and I can say that I started the divorce thing first as I was fond of threatening her that if she doesn't do right,we may have to have a divorce

When you're already having probability about divorcing her, you triggered her response which was the excuse she's latching on.